How to find love again after divorce or a breakup
Tip #1. Accept that your past relationship is over
There is a psychological principle behind this. The recovery process won't happen until you accept your losses. This principle applies to all type of losses.
Let's suppose that you invest some money on stock market. For a whole year, whenever you check your shares you see that their prices are going down. You feel bad and you think that you should have invested your money somewhere else.
You feel bad about your losses on the stock market. One day you see that the stock market is crashed and you lost all of your money you invested. Tell me what you would do in this situation.
You may feel bad for a while, but thereafter you will try to find other ways to invest and raise your money.
The same thing happens when you invest yourself into a wrong relationship. You give the best of what you can to the relationship to make it survive, but it doesn't survive and you finally face a painful breakup.
At this stage, if you accept the break up then finding love again won't be too much difficult for you. However, if you don't get yourself out from the denial stage and keep yourself daydreaming about the old beautiful days then the possibility to find love again will be very little for you.
So the key point to be remembered is to accept your losses.
Tip #2. Don't repeat the same mistake
Painful memories become fade as time passes by. You don't remember the pain you are feeling right now after five years.
To make it happen, you need to do one thing which is not to repeat the same mistake you did in your past relationship.
Every failure teaches us a new lesson. We gain experience from our failures. But only wise people take advantage of their failures and they learn lessons from them.
When they start again they don't repeat the same mistakes which lead them to the failures. And then they become successful.
When it comes to learn how to find love again after a breakup, you need to do the same thing. Don't repeat the mistakes which made your relationship to suffer a lot. Learn from your mistakes.
Don't choose someone as your partner just because she looks good or he has fame. Choosing a relationship partner based on any single factor can be a huge mistake.
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Tip #3. Don't become an owl
Some bad experiences change our thoughts about a certain thing. I hope that it won't happen to you.
Some women claim that all men are dogs. As I know a lot about psychology, I find that their claims are based on what they experienced and it is not what is true.
I find that those women are attracted to jerks (because of some unknown reasons); later they become victim of infidelity. Therefore, they adopt a wrong concept that all men are dogs.
An owl sleeps all day therefore it isn't able to see the sun. This makes it believes that the sun doesn't exist. I hope that you would not think like an owl.
If you found a wrong partner in the past then it doesn't mean that there are no good men or women on the earth.
It only means you haven't managed to attract someone good from the opposite sex yet. There are lots of good partner out there who are waiting for someone as good as you are.
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