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Do you feel like you need to look a certain way in order to attract the right man for you - or get more attention from your current man?


He'll Look at You Differently If You Do This



You may believe that most men - especially the good looking and successful ones - only want women who look like runway models and don't want to settle for a woman who is considered average looking.

And you're so not alone. Millions of women think they don't fit their country's beauty standards.

As a woman who used to only see her flaws in the mirror, I say I hear and feel you darling.

And I'm also here to give you the good news: It's not true.

However here is what's true: If you deep down believe that you are not pretty enough, thin enough, tall enough, you'll often end up attracting people who would think the same about you.

You really don't need to be so hard and critical on the way you look anymore in order to have a man to love the way you look.

Here is what helped me and can turn things around for you too:

Celebrate what's unique about you

Although it's okay to notice that another woman is very beautiful, comparing yourself to her is like expecting two flowers to look the same. A Lily and a Rose look so different, yet they are both so lovely in their own way. It's ridiculous to expect them to look the same for them to be considered as beautiful.

Also don't forget that someone might find a rose much more desirable than a Lily, while another feels the opposite.

When you truly embrace this and start viewing things this way, you begin to exude self-love and acceptance of a high confidence woman.

And as a result, the right man who are loving and appreciative of your unique beauty will take notice.

I certainly am not a size 2 and don't fit into society standard of beauty, yet I frequently have high quality men notice me; and I never get tired of hearing my fiancé telling me how beautiful he thinks I am.

You have heard it often enough that confidence is key, and it's so true. A woman whom in her core feels confident, talks, walks, and carries herself differently. There's just something alluring about her, even if she doesn't have the perfect nose, and her arms and thighs aren't toned.

To men there is something so magnetic about a woman who simply does not care about what a man or anyone thinks about how she looks. And she draws the attention of men like bees to honey.

So from now on, start celebrating and appreciating what's unique about you. Is it your eyes? Your hair? Your nails? Focus on your favorite features, be thankful for them, and smile in confidence that there is only one of you. And your man will love and adore every part of you, if you fully embrace your unique beautiful self.



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He'll Look at You Differently If You Do This


When it comes to how men behave around women, there are two types of behaviour that are often spoken about. On one side, there is the man who acts as though he doesn't care and, on the other, there is the man who cares too much.

Does The Fear Of Rejection Cause Some Men To Please Women



Two Sides

There is then a spectrum, and a man can be on one side of it or he can be on the other side. If he doesn't have the need to please women, he could be called a 'bad boy', but if he does have the need to please them, he could be called a 'nice guy'.

It would be easy to believe that the 'nice guys' have more success in their dating life, but this is rarely the case. As even though a 'bad boy' won't treat women with respect, he is more likely to get his needs met.

A Big Difference

This is someone who will generally be able to fulfil his sexual needs, as well as other needs. In general, the kind of women who he attracts (and is attracted to) may have a lot of issues, but that might not cause him too much concern.

After all, it's not as if he is going to have everything together; he might be only interested in keeping a woman around for a short time. Once he has got what he wanted, he could move on to the next one, or to another woman that he already has on the go.

A Victim

Due to how this man treats a woman, it would be easy to say that he is taking advantage of them. Yet, as the women who he ends up with are typically going to have their own issues, it is not this black and white.

If anything, it would be more accurate to say that these women are allowing themselves to end up with someone who is not right for them. Still, a woman might find it hard to believe how this is the case.

Self-knowledge

It would then be necessary for her to look into what is taking place within her, and to see why she is drawn to a certain type of man. What she can do is to reflect on what took place during her early years.

Through doing this, she may find that how she feels around men reminds her of how she felt when she was younger. This may have been a time when she was abused and/or neglected by her caregiver/s.

Another Scenario

When it comes to a 'nice guy', this is someone who is likely to find it extremely difficult to fulfil his sexual needs. In fact, he will probably find it hard to get most of his needs met when it comes to women.

This is not to say that his relationships with other men or people in general with be any different though. His need to please will then have taken over his whole life and it is then going to be a challenge for him to feel empowered and fulfilled.

Needless

It might not matter if he has known a woman for a few minutes or a few years, as he will have one focus. There is the chance that he will be very good at knowing what it is that she needs.

But even if he doesn't, it is not going to stop him; he might just ask her what it is that she wants. Based on how he behaves, he could appear to be a selfless human being, and it might then seem as though he doesn't have needs.

Two Outcomes

Through behaving in this way, he is likely to find that woman often see him as nothing more than a friend. He is rarely going to trigger attraction in a woman, and it is then going to be normal for them to respond in this way.

If he does go further than this, he is likely to end up with a woman who will walk all over him. It is highly unlikely that she will respect him, and he might just be seen as someone who she can use.

Self-Neglect

When a man lives his life in this way, it can show that he is ignoring his own needs in the hope that it will allow him to fulfil them indirectly. There might be moments when this works, but this is going to the exception as opposed to the rule.

At a deeper level, he might fear that if he was to go about getting his needs met in a direct manner it would cause him to be rejected. Pleasing others and trying to get his needs met indirectly is then a way to stop this from taking place.

A Deeper Look

One way of looking at this would be to say that rejection is part of life, and that he needs to come to terms with this. Another approach would be to look into why his life is being controlled by this fear.

If he was to look into what is underneath this fear, he may find that he feels completely worthless. Being rejected will not only be seen as something that will cause other people to see how flawed he is and to abandon him, it will also cause him to be overwhelmed by toxic shame.

The Reason

What this can show is that he was abused and/or neglected when he was younger, and this is why he is carrying so much pain. This would have caused him to create certain beliefs and he would have experienced trauma.

It is then not just going to be as simple as changing what is taking place in his head; it will also be necessary for him to deal with what is taking place in his body. What this also emphasises is how painful it is to experience toxic shame, and that it takes a lot of courage to face it.

Awareness

If a man can relate to this, and he wants to change his life, it might be a good idea for him to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by a therapist or a healer.


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Prolific writer, author, and coach, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. His current projects include 'A Dialogue With The Heart' and 'Communication Made Easy'.

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Does The Fear Of Rejection Cause Some Men To Please Women


"Why am I still single?" It's a question I hear a lot in my practice. As a clinical psychologist in New York City, I work with many successful clients - while they're really good at getting things done in their professional lives, their dating life is either nonexistent or chaotic.

Why Am I Still Single?



If you're anything like my clients, you may at times feel frustrated because while you believe you've done all the right things to find the right person, you don't understand why it isn't happening. If you feel like you hit a wall when it comes to dating when you're otherwise confident and successful, see if what's holding you back is one of these top reasons that I find my clients often struggle with.

1. Your idea of being open to dating someone different means they have a different favorite color.

OK, I'm being a little facetious here, but I do see a lot of clients who rule out potential matches over things that are actually really minor in the context of lifelong partnership - whether because of a height that's less than ideal, political views that don't match perfectly, or even a grasp of the hottest nightclubs. Remember that in a partnership, the way you manage the areas where you differ is actually very important. Try to boil down a short list of your absolute essentials in dating (aim for 3 to 4 qualities, such as "kind-hearted, wants marriage/kids, successful, physically fit") and then do your best to let the other things fade into the background so that chemistry has a chance to develop.

2. You come across as critical without even realizing it.

Some of my clients have a way of presenting themselves that makes them look and sound critical: They squint their eyes and use a dismissive tone of voice, or they don't make a lot of eye contact, smile, or demonstrate a lot of interest or excitement in the world around them. The interesting part is that when asked if something is wrong, these types of people seem genuinely surprised. They aren't depressed - this is just their normal way of presenting themselves.

Why do they do this? There are all kinds of reasons why someone could come to present themselves in a way that others experience as closed off. Maybe they're insecure and take on a dismissive air because they're afraid of being rejected, for example.

Because I'm meeting them as a psychologist rather than a potential friend or date, I am undeterred by all this - even if they give me terse answers or quizzical "umm's," I continue to show interest in them, try to engage them, and draw them out. Usually, this is all it takes - after five to ten minutes of me being super-nice and reassuring, they come out of their shell and actually turn out to be really sweet people. However, I'm not surprised when they complain that their dating life is stalled and that they can't seem to attract a positive and enthusiastic partner.

I'm not saying that people should be false and pretend to be the Happiest Person Ever on dates, but it's important to let your date see you in your best light. Start by making sure you arrive in clean clothing in flattering colors, styled hair, and wearing a little makeup. Then once there, smile and say something positive about the setting or the weather. Don't put yourself or your date down, even in jest, and remember: First dates aren't the time to open up about your abusive boss, mounting credit card bills, or your psycho roommate. One more how-to on letting date see you in your best light: Before the date, scan a newspaper so you can talk about current events like art exhibits, local news, or whatever piques your interest. This gives you a way to share yourself in a way that is confident and relatable; and it can prime the conversation pump so you and your date can have fun getting to know one another!

Human beings have something called mirror neurons - whatever emotion you're displaying, your date's mirror neurons will actually respond as if he is feeling your emotions. So if you're focused on negative things, your date's mirror neurons could give him a negative feeling, resulting in a closed or withdrawn facial expression. This, in turn, causes your mirror neurons to give you a negative feeling back about him. The good news is that by focusing on positive things, the mirror neuron circle will work in a positive way for both of you. And you will actually be doing yourself a favor if you give the date a chance to succeed by deliberately projecting an open, positive attitude.

3. You run your dating life like a boardroom.

Many of my female clients are very successful at work, and they are accustomed to getting what they want in their professional lives. What they want in their personal lives often includes a man who is at least as successful as they are, taller than they are, and who will pursue them. But it's sometimes difficult for these women to actually let the man take the lead like they say they want him to do. Just to make it clear, I'm not telling these women that they need to let a man pursue them; these women are telling me that they're frustrated by men who don't pursue them.

So what's the problem? While they like the idea in theory of letting a man pursue them, they get very frustrated if he doesn't pursue them on their timeline and in the manner of their preference. They have "talks" with men who they don't feel are "doing enough" - much like they'd have a chat with an underperforming employee.

But you cannot dictate pursuit. You cannot complain to someone that he isn't pursuing you. If you do, then he's only pursuing because you told him to, in which case he is following your directions - which is almost the opposite of pursuit.

If you want to call the shots, fine with me - I'm not here to judge, I'm here to help clients get (almost) whatever they want! But if you want him to lead, you can't tell him how to do it. This doesn't mean you have to sit around waiting, though. If he isn't pursuing you the way you want, date others who will! But don't tell him to pursue you and then feel surprised when you're both sensing the awkward tension that will inevitably arise.

Telling a man to pursue you is like telling him how to lead. By doing so, you are actually leading - and depriving yourself of what you're really craving.

4. You over-invest in a man who hasn't even asked you to be in a relationship.

The reason many women have trouble just distancing themselves from a man who isn't pursuing them is because they've over-invested themselves in the relationship before the man has earned the investment. They've quit dating other people simply because their "favorite" is requesting a lot of dates.

What they don't think about is that just going on five or six really fun dates where each time you go a little further physically is totally enticing to men, but it doesn't mean anything in terms of the man's interest or ability to make a commitment. It can get even more confusing if the man has been saying things like, "I see myself getting married and settling down sometime in the next few years." The women sometimes misinterpret this as having a talk about his goals and interests pertaining to them specifically.

Like it or not, women have a biological tendency to become commitment-oriented sooner than men when they start having great sex (oxytocin - we've all heard about it!). So if you're having great sex and the man mentions the future, perhaps even invites you to a friend's wedding or to meet his parents when they visit him next month, your heart can quickly go in limbo.

My advice: If you meet someone special, consider taking things really s-l-o-w. Don't quit dating other people till he asks you, and if he doesn't ask you, take that as information about either a) his interest in you, b) his interest in commitment, or c) his ability to pursue and go after what he wants. A man must demonstrate ALL of the above if you're looking for a committed relationship with someone who pursues you. This is what 99% of my female dating clients specifically tell me they want (a man who will pursue them), and if that's you too, these tips may help you.

5. You haven't let go of your ex.

Are you in a pattern of being "just friends" with someone you recently broke up with? If so, the texts, phone calls, and get-togethers could be holding you back from giving yourself wholeheartedly to single life and moving forward. If this is you, it's time to leave the past behind. Instead of letting someone with whom a relationship hasn't worked take up all your mental space, why not let go and direct your focus toward the possibility of a new relationship that will potentially be even better that the last?

6. You're afraid.

Fear is a sneaky thing that could be sabotaging your love life without you even realizing. Dating requires vulnerability, and putting yourself out there without quite knowing what you'll get in return can be scary. If you haven't had the rosiest of endings in your past relationships, you could be looking at potential dates or new relationships from a fearful lens - whether the fear is being rejected or falling for the wrong person again.

Fears like these aren't uncommon, but if left unexplored, they can eventually evolve into a reason to consciously or subconsciously avoid dating altogether. If you've caught yourself wondering whether you should even bother giving someone a chance because it probably won't work out anyway, fear could be holding you back.

If you know deep down that the fear is actually more about your own difficulty becoming vulnerable, then encourage yourself to open up slowly - chances are, your fear of intimacy is running alongside a fear of being alone, so give yourself a chance to try something new. And if you know you have a pattern of choosing people who are unavailable, unreliable, or otherwise hurtful, then your fear is actually serving as a helpful reminder to you that you need to get support in choosing healthy dates. Support can come in many forms, such as self-help books, good friends, family, or therapy. One of the most effective treatments for overcoming anxiety and fear is cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), specifically, so speak with a mental health professional about it. You owe it to yourself to give love a chance this Valentine's Day - and beyond!

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Why Am I Still Single


By keeping the romance alive in a relationship, you can ensure that your relationship passes the test of time and sees through even the most troublesome situations. Valentine's Day is the day to celebrate romance, but true romance lasts all through the year!

Ways To Keep The Romance Alive



Let's now run through some ways which would work towards making you feel that you just started the relationship afresh!

1. BE APPRECIATIVE - EVERY SINGLE DAY!

From the break of dawn right to the twilight, innumerable opportunities to express ourselves come across our ways - why not make it a point to make the most of them?

Some nonverbal cues would express your love for your partner. Or you could go ahead with the combination of a wink, kiss and a smile!

2. A SURPRISE IN STORE!

When you do something special for your partner, it would make his/her day! A fine idea in this regard is leaving a note on the fridge or the shower.

You could go for a sexy voicemail! You could send a card to work.

Consider breakfast in bed or flowers. Maybe a singing telegram to work!

3. SOME EXTRA TIME FOR TOGETHERNESS

When a relationship is young, there is some anxiety about your relationship with your new partner and some excitement as well. This takes the top priority in your life.

As the urgency leaves, we develop a sense of monotony and some complacency sets in. We tend to slip into our comfort zone.

So it becomes more difficult to find time for your partner, especially as one could be busy with his work, one might be taking care of his family or one could be feeling exhausted.

But a relationship is like a plant. It needs to be nurtured with love and figuring out some time together is essentially important!

So why not go ahead and make sure that you schedule some time, just for the both of you, every week! You may choose to check out a new movie or dine out. Maybe spend more time making a conversation or cook together. You could lie together on the couch - just focus on making each other a priority.

4. PLAN A DREAM GETAWAY TOGETHER!

Choose to find time to run through some brochures or websites which offer a dream getaway in your vicinity. You may plan to visit in the future!

5. TAKE TURNS TO PLAN YOUR DATES

If one partner does all the planning and organizing, one might over time feel that the other partner is not enjoying it all that much!

6. BREAK THE MONOTONY

The monotony which sets in with the passage of time could add a shade of dullness in your relationship. But there are ways to overcome this monotony.

When you start doing new things together, it releases oxytocin, a feel good hormone in the brain. So why not plan trip together, or every once in a while, you could take a day off to be with one another.

7. GO FOR STUFF WHICH IS OUT OF THE ORDINARY

Be inventive and set the imagination running. Stare at the moon, for instance? Maybe throw a themed party?

8. HALF AN HOUR OF CONVERSATION AS A RULE

Making conversation is just about one of the best ways to form a connection which is deep and meaningful. There are a thousand things about you that your partner wouldn't know. Discuss your favorite things, and also dreams and passions.


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Ways To Keep The Romance Alive


Marriage and family life are the biggest inventions by humanity, for its social life; which put humanity at a higher pedestal, compared to other species. In democracy, people follow their leaders, who are more often than not, slave to sensual desires. Success in relationships demands: tolerance of others' views, accepting feminism, and striking a balance between personal ambitions and family life.

The Relationship Panorama: Macho Males, Feminism, Divorces, And Personal Ambitions


A joke, I never laughed at

1. As a child, I read a joke - a satire on Occidental culture:

* A better-half calls her husband - both divorced earlier: "Come quickly. Your children, and my children are beating our children."

* Now-a-days, Oriental people are equally successful, and follow such stories in their lives.

Godly relations and man-made relations

2. It was a celebrity couple. Both were career conscious; thus they had to stay away from each other, quite often. The outcome -

divorce! The relationship takes a backseat; personal ambitions take priority.

* She was an adventurous lady, who joined an expedition to the highest lake in the world. Unfortunately, there was a landslide due to heavy rains, and she was among dead.

* Only her daughter went there! Godly relations stay permanent. They can't and will never desert each other.

Divorces all around!

3. Another celebrity couple, were divorced due to: ego clashes and excessive drinking by the husband. The wife looked after two daughters, who were equally successful in the glamorous world. The daughters are close to the mother, and the father is isolated in the family. One daughter is already divorced. Second daughter has married a divorced person.

* In the past, divorced persons were a minuscule minority in Oriental countries.

Male macho

4. In Oriental societies, family planning implies: invariably, wife's tubectomy is done during delivery. The husbands always think: vasectomy will affect his manhood, and avoid it.

* In case of a divorce, the courts normally favour the custody of children to the mother. The husband, after divorce can be a father again, if vasectomy is not done.

* In case the spouse dies, the husband - if without vasectomy - can become a father, when he marries again. Thus in Oriental countries, tubectomy is more popular, and vasectomy is avoided.

Relationship middle


Our stalwarts

In India, a 90 years old, successful politician - ex-Governor, and ex-Chief Minister - had to undergo a DNA test, as a youngster claimed to be his son out of an adulterous relationship, and proved it successfully.

* We know: couple of Presidents, a potential President of a developed nation, a Prime Minister, a Governor and a top professional player, who couldn't control their sensual desires. Some of them survived politically. as in their societies perjury is an offence, but illicit relationship between consenting individuals is not. But they lost the harmony in their lives, and the spouse in most of the cases.

Lessons we can learn

* Don't be a slave to sensual desires, and indulge in adultery, for harmony in the family life.

* Develop ' tolerance', and avoid ego clashes with your spouse.

* Feminism is there to stay. If you are a macho male, please see the writing on the wall.

* Optimise personal ambitions and warmth in relationships in your life. We need both in a home.

* A divorce seldom solves a problem.


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The Relationship Panorama: Macho Males, Feminism, Divorces, And Personal Ambitions


Men have for long been belittled by the fairer sex and have been quoted as being everything ranging from egotistical, stubborn and lacking in emotion. For the ladies out there, however, it may come to you as a surprise, or even a shock, that there is much more behind a man and there is much that your man might wish you could know better about him.

50 Things Guys Wish Girls Knew


Yes, it is true that it might be quite a challenge for women to understand men. However, once you get to know a few of the "basics", it becomes much easier to understand a man. Well, there are some things that guys wish girls knew, and a few of these are listed below. Knowing these things and understanding them can go a long way in understanding a guy and building a better relationship with your man.

Things That Girls Should Know About Guys


  1. Guys are more emotional than they appear to be. If they ever loved you at any point of time, it will take them much longer to let go of you than you think, and it hurts them immensely each moment that they try.
  2. Guys love to make their women happy. At times they just don't know how to do it.
  3. No matter how many women a guy flirts with all day, he will always think about the girl he truly cares about before he falls asleep.
  4. Be specific. Guys are not mind readers nor do they "read between the lines". If you want a guy to know something, say it.
  5. Guys do not like to be used as tools to make others jealous.
  6. Guys hate it when girls smoke, especially if the girl in question means a lot to him.
  7. Guys love girls who work out.
  8. Guys love you more than you think they do.
  9. Whether you believe it or not, most times that guys hurt you, they honestly don't mean to hurt you.
  10. A guy has feelings too. Just because he "appears" to be unresponsive to things that might set you off, it does not mean that he has no feelings.
  11. If you don't want to know the truth, don't ask guys questions. They say it as it is.
  12. When a guy falls in love, he becomes very serious about you. Do not try to make him jealous. This will push him away from you.
  13. Guys get possessive when they are serious about their relationship.
  14. A movie is not "real". Do not expect guys to do and say everything that is said in movies. It takes countless drafts and revisions for groups of people to come up with just "one" of those sweet lines that are said in movies.
  15. Guys run from girls who are clingy, no matter how deeply they might love them.
  16. If a guy sacrifices his health and sleep just to be with you or talk to you, it means that he loves you more than you can imagine.
  17. You can be the most beautiful woman in the world. However, if you are being nasty to your guy, it's curtains for you.
  18. As tough as a guy may appear to be, he still likes to be reassured that he is loved.
  19. A guy finds you more attractive when you are cooking than when you are dressed to kill.
  20. A guy might listen politely when you talk about your ex-boyfriend. However, this does not mean that he is interested in having ceaseless conversations on each thing your ex did and why it didn't work out.
  21. When a guy likes you, he teases you.
  22. While a guy may ogle a girl in a mini-skirt, he definitely prefers a girl with brains.
  23. Not all guys are jerks. Just because you have met a couple of jerks it doesn't mean that they all are.
  24. A guy who loves you will want to be the only guy you talk to.
  25. You are not a model from a magazine and your guy doesn't expect you to be one.
  26. Guys don't like their past mistakes being brought up constantly by the women they love.
  27. The only "operation" of the remote control to which you are entitled is to pick it up and hand it to your guy.
  28. Guys don't like their driving skills being criticized.
  29. Video games have a special place in a guy's life.
  30. Guys don't like to be interrupted when they are watching a game. You can ask questions later.
  31. Guys hate it when things said in old arguments are brought up in the current argument.
  32. A Guys' night out is not something to be discussed with you. Ask questions about it only if you want to get your head bitten off.
  33. No matter how much a guy may drool over a super-hot woman, in the end, it personality that counts with him.
  34. Guys cry. This does not make them unmanly.
  35. When you start getting jealous of your guy's relationship with his female friend, you are pushing him closer to her.
  36. If a guy tells you that he is crazy about you, he really is. It is not often that guys say that.
  37. Guys have more problems than you might be aware of.
  38. A guy doesn't bother much about whether you wear new clothes or get a new hairdo as much as he bothers about "you".
  39. If a guy loves you, he will do anything to get you to notice him.
  40. A guy needs a listening ear at times. Don't give him advice and don't lecture him all the time - just listen.
  41. A guy will waste a lot of time over video games and sports, just the same way as you would waste time over novels and make up.
  42. Guys hate it when arguments are ended with "Whatever" or "Fine". They know that the argument will re-surface at some later point of time if this is how it ends.
  43. Guys rarely look into things minutely. So if you've trimmed your hair half an inch, it wouldn't be fair to explode at him for not noticing it.
  44. Guys generally don't like match-making. If you don't want to upset your guy, do not expect him to "convince" his friend to date your friend, just because she is lonely and her date cancelled out.
  45. Guys never really stop loving girls whom they truly loved before.
  46. A guy's first love is special.
  47. Guys love it when girls they really like, ask them for advice. It brings out the protector in them.
  48. Surprise your guy with little gifts or even a surprise evening out. It's not just girls who love to be pampered.
  49. Guys love girls who take an interest in their career and make it a point to find out more about what their man does.
  50. Guys love girls who love them.


While the above points hold good for guys in general, avoid the tendency to stereotype all guys you meet. Remember that each person has their own individuality, and if you really love a guy, you need to respect him for who he is.


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50 Things Guys Wish Girls Knew


The definition of a habit is: “a consistent and regular pattern of behavior”. You can either create positive habits or negative habits, and once you start practicing them, they will eventually become an act that is unconscious. By harnessing the power of habit you can enjoy the life and relationship you really want.

In this article, I will share with you 7 powerful habits of smart magnetic women that will keep you feeling nurtured and vibrant with lots of love in your heart. Implement each of these habits in your relationship and start reconnecting with your partner.

7 Powerful Habits of Smart Magnetic Women - How to Be Happy In Your Relationship


Are these habits part of your daily life? Which ones do you need to adopt to create the life that delights you?

There is simply no way to create a deep intimate connection with your partner, if you don't prioritise your self-care.

If you don't have a habit of putting yourself first on your to-do list, then you probably feel resentful and depleted, or blame your partner for not giving you what you need.

This energy is not magnetic! And your partner won't be inspired to give you what you need if you appear resentful, demanding or needy.

So, what can you do about it?

Put first attention on yourself. Find out what you feel, and what you need. Fill your love tanks up. When we are nourished we are more relaxed. Also, when we are more relaxed, we have the ability to make a request, rather than blame.

Of course we know that there is a request behind every blame. But when we feel stressed and unloved, it might be really hard to make a request that inspires action. The resentment will sneak out, he'll sense it, and shut down. The energy behind your requests is crucial.

I invite you to take a stand for your life and practice extreme self-care. What makes your eyes shine? What fulfils you, and makes the stars fall out of your heart, and onto every passer-by?

There are seven fundamentals that are vital for women to fully enjoy life.

1. Movement

The 7 Habits of Smart Magnetic Women - Movement


To connect to our bodies, we need movement that brings us joy. Are you dancing, or practicing any other kind of movement that makes you feel excited, and ready to jump out of bed? Think of movement rather than exercise. The thought of exercise can be draining, and that is the opposite of what we need.

2. Healthy Diet

The 7 Habits of Smart Magnetic Women - Healthy Diet


Yes, Beautiful, yes. Healthy eating is important for love.

How is your diet? Sometimes nutritionists make it rather hard. In fact, it's pretty simple. Eat more raw greens, colourful veggies, and fruits. Buy as little as possible packaged food, and drink lots of pure water. Homemade food prepared with love, and joy can do miracles. Start eating more fruits, and sweet root vegetables, and you will have fewer cravings for sweets.

I invite you to become curious about your relationship with food, and start treating your body with love and respect, as if you are feeding your baby. Of course, you want to feed your baby the most nutritious food.

3. Sleep

The 7 Habits of Smart Magnetic Women - Sleep


We need rest. Sleep is so essential for us to feel sexy and loving. Don't underestimate its significance? They say that for our biological clock to be at its best, we need to go to sleep by ten at night, and get up by seven in the morning. This makes us feel thrilled about the new day, and more inclined to share our love with our man. Do you feel loving and sexy when you are tired? Make it a habit to go to bed by ten, in order to enjoy your dreams.




Sleep is far from a waste of time. It recharges our batteries, fills us up with patience and love, and allows our spirits to process each day's events in a gentle manner.

4. Spending Time with Girlfriends

The 7 Habits of Smart Magnetic Women - Spending Time with Girlfriends


It's amazing what the company of women can do for us. Have you tried a girls' weekend away? It can do wonders. We nourish each other, and we fill each other with sensual, calm, and nurturing energy. Finally, talking about our feelings without someone else, trying to solve the problem. What a miracle. Girlfriends are the best people to talk with, and unload our "stuff.". They listen, and know we just need to talk, and empty our heads. After we are nourished and cleansed, we have much more capacity to meet our men, and be ready for romance.

5. Time Alone and Spiritual Practice

The 7 Habits of Smart Magnetic Women - Time Alone and Spiritual Practice


How do you feel after spending time by yourself? With our busy lifestyles, we often forget how good it feels to spend time alone, and connect with ourselves.

We need to have alone time to centre ourselves, and check what is happening inside. We need time to distance ourselves from our life's everyday issues. We need time to see the bigger picture, to plug into the energy of the universe, and to sense the higher purpose of our lives.

6. Time with Nature

The 7 Habits of Smart Magnetic Women - Time with Nature


Fresh air heals our bodies, purifies us, and gives us so much energy. The sun energises us, increases our happiness hormones, and supplies our bodies with important vitamin D. The wind blows out destructive thoughts, and wakes up the sensuality of our skin.

7. Sensual Touch and Sex

"Sensory stimulation is a nutrient that the brain must have to develop and function normally."

~James Prescott
The 7 Habits of Smart Magnetic Women - Sensual Touch


Make a "touching date" with your man. It's better to agree that you won't go into sex. Just caress each other, feeling the skin, and awakening your senses. Choose whose turn is first to receive and indulge in the feelings without trying to give your touch, and love at the same time. Be totally selfish! Then, when it's your turn to give, fully give, and enjoy giving. If you touch each other at the same time, it diffuses the intensity, and doesn't give so much pleasure. Try to be in a completely giving or receiving mode. This can feel very vulnerable and exciting; so explore!




We need sex. It's not just about pleasure; it's important for our well-being, and full enjoyment of life.

So, by taking care of yourself, you will take care of your relationship. Not caring about yourself is selfish. You are less patient and have less to give.

Filling up your love tanks is one of the steps from my Re-ignite Your Love 7-Step System.

"I Feel Like I Was Given a New Life."

"I can't believe my relationship with my husband changed so much! We are again in love just like we were 20 years ago, but now this feels so much deeper. Wow! Where were you before, Tarisha? I feel like I was given a new life."

Susan, Auckland, New Zealand


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7 Powerful Habits of Smart Magnetic Women - How to Be Happy In Your Relationship


From our early teens we all have our own idea of what love is; the one thing that is not in conflict is everyone begins searching for it. Is there a method to the madness of chasing something that for many seems elusive? Are you one of those people who always seem to feel you have somehow landed or fallen for the wrong person, leaving you on the hurting end of love? There are some guidelines that do more than make sense.

Stop Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places


1) If you don't want a partner who drinks or parties, don't go to a bar, nightclub or racy party to meet one. Confine your serious search to workplaces, local gatherings, restaurants and other random opportunities.

2) If cheaters don't appeal to you, refuse to be involved with anyone who is cheating on someone else to be with you. If you attempt to fool yourself into believing they love you too much to do that, understand that is what their current partner thought. Cheaters cheat.

3) Hate deceitful people? Don't gloss over untruthful statements your partner is inclined to make. They are not small white lies or offered for entertainment. They are lies. Liars lie. If you find yourself telling your friends your partner always tells you something that turns out to be less than truthful, you're dating a liar.

4) Feel like you are being treated like you are second class? Accepting behavior that is less than caring and respectful is construed as your agreement to be treated as less than the King or Queen you deserve to be in your relationship. Never accept the idea that you are lucky to have your partner and therefore will tolerate less than you deserve. No one belongs on a pedestal that high. Find someone who meets you on equal ground and loves who you are.

5) Don't settle for any long-term relationship with a person who is not capable and intent on seeing the very best in you and helping you see the same. Find someone you feel the same way about. Couples who uplift each other contribute to one another's happiness and create lasting relationships.

RELATED: How to Choose Your Partner and Build a Stronger Relationship


One last thing; if you pay attention to people they will tell you who they are. People often voice their own weaknesses by stating how much they hate that attribute in others. They hate the reflection of their own weakness projected back at them.

People who are mistrustful may be less than trustworthy. We all judge our expectations of others by what we would do in a similar situation. Want to know if they will lie, steal or cheat? Listen to their assessment of the behavior they expect from someone else in a situation that would promote those things!


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Stop Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places