Saturday, April 28, 2018

7 Things That Can Kill Your Relationship
The courtship and marriage go through different stages where the most beautiful one is always the one of falling in love, everything is perfect and there are no fights.

7 Things That Can Kill Your Relationship


But it is as time goes by that conflicts begin and everything comes to an end. It is then that the question arises as to what went wrong or why relationships die.

According to Terri Orbuch, a clinical psychologist at the University of Michigan's Institute for Social Research, when you think that a relationship should be a certain way, but it's not on a day-to-day basis, a great deal of frustration begins to be generated that ends up destroying the couple.

Love involves hard work


When communication begins to fracture, other issues that were less obvious begin to become real problems. Here are some things that can kill any relationship.

1. Criticism. After many years of studies, John Gottman, a psychologist and professor at the University of Washington, points out that although we all have defects, when criticism is repeated, it affects a person's self-esteem, which will make him or her no longer want a partner.

2. Contempt. Gottman says that when a person acts out sarcasm, insults or a bad look at his or her partner, it makes him or her feel useless, even affecting their health; no one wants a relationship like this, which is why divorce is even possible.

3. Defensive attitude. A person presents this behavior in a natural way in life, but within a couple's relationship it usually increases when one of the two parties tries to justify their failures or "slips", if it becomes a persistent theme may indicate the end.

4. Obstruct. Beyond a miscommunication, the psychologist says, there is a moment when a "barrier" rises metaphorically, there is no sign of interest or effort to connect again, and the disappointment of those who still want to continue becomes deep.

5. Not having sex. Family therapist and author of the book "How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free", Tina B. Tessina, explains that intimacy with a partner is essential for keeping them together, although it is often overlooked because of the fatigue of daily activities.

Even if you don't feel playful or resentful, do it. An orgasm makes the mind and body feel good; sex is different after a long time together but you must learn how to make it easy to get there

6. Neglect to take care of yourself. While as time goes by, love becomes deeper and the outside is less important, it is good for the relationship that you continue to seek to attract each other. Putting in a little effort to look the way they like themselves is something that will make a difference.

7. Forget about the details. The everyday signs of affection are those that keep intimacy and romance alive, but many couples forget to show them what wears down the relationship.

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Tessina says it doesn't require expensive gifts, a kiss to say thank you when your partner does something for you is more than a nice touch.

The best way to keep relationships from dying is to foster good communication, as well as to remember (and say) to yourself day by day the reasons why you fell in love. People change, but that doesn't have to be a bad factor.

7 Things That Can Kill Your Relationship - When communication begins to fracture, other issues that were less obvious begin to become real problems. Here are some things that can kill any relationship.

Saturday, April 21, 2018

These Zodiac Signs Just Can't Let Their Ex Go

These zodiac signs just can't let their ex go:


The love out often hits us like a punch in the face. For weeks we don't really want to leave the bed, every place reminds us of it and we don't really know how to breathe freely anymore - only the thought of it strangles us. And since we are masochistic, we also browse non-stop through his Instagram profile (and meticulously try to find out which woman is floating around in his Instagram story). He can't be over the breakup yet, can he? Yes, he can - at least we're not.

These Zodiac Signs Just Can't Let Their Ex Go


Just like love life itself, the zodiac sign reveals how well a person deals with separation:

Is your zodiac sign one of them?

Taurus (20 April to 20 May)


Bulls are true creatures of habit - any changes are very hard on them, because they only feel comfortable when a certain routine and constancy dominate their everyday life. Because of their loyal personality, they are overwhelmed when they suddenly have to travel the world again as singles - yet they have already made plans for the future. These then give way to the well thought-out recapture plan, which however remains without success and leaves her behind in the end as a desperate ex-girlfriend.

Cancer (22 June to 22 July)


Farewells in any form are not easy for the cancer - farewells from the ex-boyfriend even less. Emotionality overruns them and before they know it, they sit in the train crying and nostalgically think back to the 'good old days' (bad memories and moments are consistently suppressed). In this case it is true that only time heals all wounds - although they are never closed in emotional cancer.

Scorpio (24 October to 22 November)


In contrast to cancer, the pain of separation does not turn into a sea of tears, but into hatred and rage - thoughts of revenge are therefore preprogrammed. The wildest plans are made to take revenge on the ex-boyfriend, which often degenerates into a true rose war. To preserve honor, the scorpion should rather leave the battlefield with his head held high.

Fish (19 February to 20 March)


Fish are very fragile personalities with a vulnerable core - that is why they break when separated into a thousand pieces that are difficult to collect together again. After the separation they retreat for a long time and it is difficult for them to stand on their own feet and to go through life independently. Instead of indulging in thoughts, they should rather banish their ex-boyfriend from their heads and fall in love again.

Tuesday, April 10, 2018

20 Questions That Make You Fall in Love
About 20 years ago, Arthur Aron, a psychologist and professor at New York University, conducted an experiment that consisted of asking two unknown people, a man and a woman, to answer 36 questions. To our surprise, it turns out that after answering each other, the two of them had to look each other in the eye for 4 minutes and in silence.

20 Questions That Make You Fall in Love


And after six months, the couple in this experiment ended up saying "I do".

Mandy Len Catron, the columnist for The New York Times, was encouraged to check out Dr. Aron's experiment in her own life. And the result, as I'm sure you'll be thinking, was indeed positive. All its participants fell in love.

It turns out that the secret to these questions is that their answers make us uncover ourselves and the other person can enjoy our vulnerable areas. This way we get totally close to our partner.

And what are 20 of the 36 questions that make you fall in love?


  • If you could choose one person in the world, who would you invite to eat?
  • Would you like to be recognized by others? And in what area?
  • What would your perfect day be like?
  • If you could live to be 90 and keep your mind or your 30 year old body for the last 60 years of your life, which one would you choose?
  • He cites three traits that you and your partner may have in common.
  • What are you most grateful for in your life situation?
  • If you could change something about the way you were raised, what would you choose?
  • If you could wake up tomorrow with a new talent or ability, which would you choose?
  • If you had a crystal ball that told you the truth about yourself, your life or your future, what would you want to know?
  • Is there anything you've wanted to do for a long time? What's stopping you from doing that?
  • What has been the greatest achievement of your life?
  • What's your best memory?
  • What role do love and affection play in your life?
  • What main virtue do you look for in a true friend?
  • When was the last time you cried and why?
  • Tell your partner what you already like about him/her.
  • If you had to die tonight without being able to talk to anyone, what would you regret not telling who? Why haven't you told him yet?
  • Whose death would affect you the most? Why? Why?
  • Start three true sentences with the word "we".
  • Tell your partner what you like about him/her: be very honest and tell him/her what you would not be able to tell another person.

You may or may not fall in love, but what I do dare to assure you is that you will have gained more complicity with the other person. By answering these questions, you have made your soul visible.

You dare to try it?

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